Weekly Meet-Up RESOURCES

DATE: Sunday, May 20, 2018


Preached by Pastor Erik Vagen


ID Series: I Am NEW: Embrace your New Life

MEETUP WEEK #3 Format: MEET-UP Questions


TODAY’S MAIN IDEA:In order to embrace your new life, embrace God’s love and let it propel you to be a good friend.



Question #1 (ICE BREAKERS):

  • – Has anyone ever saved your life? (Like Wendy Peffercorn saves Squints from “drowning” at the pool in the movie The Sandlot – See picture above).


  • – What is it about a new thing that you find exciting? Describe a recent item or relationship that is new in your life and how it made you feel?


Question #2 (SCRIPTURE):

  • – In 2 Corinthians 5:17 Paul writes, “If anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation, the old has passed away, and the new has come.” Have you experienced this in your faith journey, if so, describe it to your fellow group members.


Question #3 (GENERAL):

  • – Name and describe one of your good friends?


  • – Describe the qualities of a Good Friend? Which qualities do you appreciate most in your good friends? What qualities do you bring to your good friendships?


  • – Pastor Erik mentioned the three biggest needs of a person’s heart are: Significance (making a difference), Acceptance (I Belong), and Security (being OK).   Do you find that one of these areas presents a greater need in your life, and therefore may seek or even press to have that in your life?  Describe which area it is, and how the pursuit of it negatively impacts or effects your identity.


Question #4 (ACTION):

  • – Describe ways that God has made you “New” because of your faith?


  • – Pastor Erik talked about “Making and creating space” in your life for friendships. What do you think he meant by that?  What are some specific and tangible steps that you can “Make & Create” space in your life for current and new friendship opportunities?


Please READ 2 Corinthians 5:11 – 20 Easy-to-Read Version (ERV)

Helping People Become God’s Friends

11 We know what it means to fear the Lord, so we try to help people accept the truth. God knows what we really are, and I hope that in your hearts you know us too. 12 We are not trying to prove ourselves to you again. But we are telling you about ourselves. We are giving you reasons to be proud of us. Then you will have an answer for those who are proud about what can be seen. They don’t care about what is in a person’s heart. 13 If we are crazy, it is for God. If we have our right mind, it is for you. 14 The love of Christ controls us, because we know that one person died for everyone. So all have died. 15 He died for all so that those who live would not continue to live for themselves. He died for them and was raised from death so that they would live for him.


16 From this time on we don’t think of anyone as the world thinks of people. It is true that in the past we thought of Christ as the world thinks. But we don’t think that way now. 17 When anyone is in Christ, it is a whole new world. The old things are gone; suddenly, everything is new! 18 All this is from God. Through Christ, God made peace between himself and us. And God gave us the work of bringing people into peace with him. 19 I mean that God was in Christ, making peace between the world and himself. In Christ, God did not hold people guilty for their sins. And he gave us this message of peace to tell people. 20 So we have been sent to speak for Christ. It is like God is calling to people through us. We speak for Christ when we beg you to be at peace with God.



Three Big Needs in our Heart

  • 1.) SIGNIFICANCE – Making A Difference
  • 2.) ACCEPTANCE – I Belong
  • 3.) SECURE – Be OK


I.) WHY we embrace our new identity in Jesus – Because we are a NEW CREATION.


You are a New Creation – Live to please Him


God cares less about your behavior, and more about our heart.


We show God our love by loving other people.


II.) HOW we embrace our new identity in Jesus – By being a GOOD FRIEND


Don’t be a Jerk – be a good friend!!



  • – Over last years 10, most people have lost 90% of their good friends. (In other words, we don’t retain many of our good friends, that is not to say that we don’t replace them, but we experience turn-over in our friendship and find it difficult to retain.)


  • – 1 in 10 people have zero good friends.
  • – The average person has 4 or less good friends


Three biggest complaints of Non-Church people about Church people:



Jesus was a friend of sinners.  In order to be called a friend of sinners, you must be friendly to sinners.


Not called to REACH people, we are called to LOVE people.


Three types of friends:

  • 1.) GOD (Be a friend of God)
  • 2.) CHURCH PEOPLE (Be a friend with Church People)
  • 3.) NON-CHURCH PEOPLE (Be a friend with people who don’t go to church)


Make and create space for others.

Real friends, make space to love.



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